Every now and then, I have a good conversation about blogging with another blogger. And we talk about the bog that our blog is on the log with the frog and how we are feeling agog.
Say, “Blog, blogger” 20 times and you’ll feel like you have mucus in your throat.
I’m actually currently having a good conversation… and some of the questions are really interesting.
I thought I’d throw a few out there for you and if you have a blog you can answer. Actually. If you do not, I’d love even more to hear from you. I think the reader has more insight sometimes. (What does the home-life look like from the angle of the therapist- kind of a deal.)
But ok, here are my thoughts for bloggers.
~Why do I blog? Which one is the primary reason?
Creative, social interaction, affirmation, hobby, writing, money, to give life significance, documentation, or bragging?
(ha! I added the last one because I think a lot of non-bloggers think it’s the last one.)
~ Do I feel an obligation to readers to keep current content on my blog, even if I am not getting paid a dime?
~ How much are comments a compelling factor in what/how often/if I write?
~ How am I coming across?
I think sometimes bloggers get faulted for being too subtle, or too “life is perfect here and artsy all the time”– I can see why that is. From a bloggers perspective, you can only be so “real”. Real is awesome and people love it, but it can really be invasive to your friends and loved ones. (Ex: I just wrote a blog-post called “Love is different than I thought it would be” and it made G cry in a good way. But he thought it was too personal to us– and I never posted it.) For that reason, bloggers are subtle, NOT because they are trying to use their blog as a great face-saver or “my life is awesome” poster, BUT because they see their blog as a scrapbook, not as a toilet. I think that’s true for the most part anyway.
And I’m not even sure how to say this because I mean it in an uplifting way… but from knowing pretty many bloggers- I would say their (mine too!) lives ARE hard– just in ways you just don’t see.
If it bothers you (the perfectness) rest in that, my friend.
Another thought that goes along with the whole “real” thing: WHAT is it that makes you strong enough to post some real things (if you do)?
My answer is easy: I do not post unless my husband reads my post. If he likes it/is okay with what I shared, by dolly, I could care less what happens after that. If the Dalai Lama sitting in a tent in Tibet, happens upon my blog in wild Google search? Go ahead and read, Mr. Lama, I’m ok with that.
~ Have you ever been hurt in the blogging world? How do you handle “mean” comments? Or don’t you get any?
My worst experience– was one time I read a negative comment naming my blog in another person’s comments. It was more weird than hurtful though, so I cannot complain too much. If you want to hear what it was– ask me in person. haha, it’s kinda funny.
Another thought to chew upon… I just read that writers tend to be the most critical of each other of almost any occupation. Interesting!
My theory on this is that– no two people write exactly the same… and so everyone is either same-ish, better, or worse a writer than yourself.
I wonder how this applied to bloggers? And also, why is writing such a close part of a person’s identity? I will say, my writing is very personal to me. Not sure how to expound on that at present.
Do you feel an emotional or a practical approach towards your blog? The thought is: that those that write for money feel free to promote and link-about. Those that blog in a more personal way– can feel like it’s so much self-promotion and may feel shy to link-about etc.
Yeah, well, this was all very rambley bambley. I’d love for you to throw it around. For I like a compelling conversation. And remember, you can post anonymously. I don’t care!
I found this very fascinating: The Evolution of Bloggers.