Mother’s Day Hack ;)

“The world is held together by moms and duct tape.”

This is Mr. Kauffman.  Just thought you should know that up front.  I’ve always thought it would be fun to hack Jenny’s blog and surprise her with something sweet.  Today, Mother’s Day, is that day I guess.

We were over 1,500 miles apart when the concept of being parents hit us between the eyes.  I was in Jamaica with Malone College Chorale, when our 1st wedding anniversary was just around the corner.  What an odd place to be (not with her) when you hear your young bride say for the first time:

“We’re having a baby!!”

I was scared and happy— scared because I felt like I was barely taking care of her adequately the way it was, much less adding a little bambino to the mix.

I was happy for her because it felt like she deserved something special for how hard she had toiled for us while I was in school.  We’d have our baby, and I would begin working and providing like real men are supposed to.  Life was about to get good.

Bear in mind that the horizon did not provide any “blingy” incentive for my faithful wife.  Delirious wealth or stable plans were undreamed of.  I wasn’t studying law or business or medicine.  No, this boy was studying the art of singing ‘perdy.’

Jenny was working tirelessly toward a completely unknown future that she fully understood could take her away from her family and friends.  In fact, I think she was kind of excited about the unknown–like she was gearing up for a great adventure (one of the traits I love about my wife).

She never questioned, never wavered in her commitment, never made a fuss.  Not even when (during this exact time while I was in Jamaica) she had to go to her parents in tears to ask for $200 to stick into our overdrawn checking account temporarily.

Yes, this woman knows what it’s like to be outta money and outta luck–while her husband is far away making pretty music for adorable Jamaican kids, carting gravel down a little trail in a wheel-barrow, and jumping off the trampolines at Margaritaville.

Little did we know that a few weeks later we would be completely devastated by the doctor’s “can’t-seem-to-get-the-heartbeat”  line. Although our lives were far from perfect, we were totally unprepared for this.  The possibility was the furtherest thing from our minds.

I fully understand this kind of thing affects different people in different ways.  All I know, is that we entered an extremely dark time of grief and feeling sorry for ourselves, especially when it happened again in what seemed to be only a few short months later.  A time in our lives we will never forget, and for which we are often strangely thankful.

Sometimes I wonder how these experiences shaped the mother that Jenny is to our girls now.  By the way, she’s a top-notch mom.  She still looks at our girls and often muses something like, “What if I would’ve been able to see a snapshot of them back when I was having my miscarriages?”  It’s as if she’s trying to reconcile the intensity of her present joy with the near-depression she was battling through then.  Like she’s going back and giving the old Jenny a big hug and telling her it’ll be ok.  I find this utterly adorable.

Pain redeemed on this side of Heaven is a gift, not an entitlement.  We’re conscious of this.

Not a day goes by, it seems, without her savoring the gift of motherhood.  She sees it as a complete and total privilege not to be taken for granted.  It’s a beautiful thing.  Contentment is always beautiful.  Some say it’s the greatest wealth.  I know from experience that having a wife like her is great wealth.

Solomon’s words come to mind:

A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.

Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value
She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.

When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness (well, except for Facebook).
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:

Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”


Yea, that.  Jenny, I love you and I’m blessed-beyond-words to call you my wife and the mother of our children.

Your husband

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24 Comments

  1. Sandi says:

    Great job, Mr. K! That was beautifully written and I agree with you, Jenny is a wonderful person and a great mom. Thanks tor sharing your story:)

  2. Anna Kauffman says:

    Galen, well written. You got me crying. Beautiful Mother’s Day gift!

    I especially like this, “Pain redeemed on this side of Heaven is a gift, not an entitlement.” I never heard it put that way before, but I will keep it in my heart.

  3. Terri says:

    beautiful. i had to agree that solomon’s words sound true of my friend, jenny. love you guys…

  4. Brooke says:

    Okay that was just the sweetest thing EVER.:)

  5. Pauline says:

    Wow, Galen, wow! I’m thinking Jenny has a pretty decent husband, too! God bless you both!

  6. Rachel says:

    there are no words.
    beyond beautiful.

  7. Anita says:

    That was absolutely beautiful and very well-written! You two- and your beautiful family- are a total inspiration…

  8. Marilyn says:

    So beautiful. And sweet. I love it.

  9. Shelley says:

    My goodness, Jenny must be a mess reading this because it sure made me tear up.:) Every wife/mom desperately desires to hear such affirmation of who she is and what she is doing in life…never stop encouraging her in such a real, tangible way! I can tell that you two will do great things for God, with a devotion like that.

    Blessings.

  10. April says:

    I’m completely teary-eyed! I love seeing Jenny through your eyes Galen. I feel like I have a complete picture of her now. This is a beautiful way to celebrate a beautiful woman!

    Happy Mother’s Day Jenny, you are a blessed woman indeed!

  11. cindy says:

    what a great hack. i am in tears.

    this kind of “blingy” on a girl sparkles like no other.

  12. Lynnelle says:

    Oh good grief, G! You made me cry!

  13. Shannon says:

    Beautiful! Jenny, I see your lovely heart in these words!!

  14. clarita says:

    This is absolutely beautiful. Great hack, Mr. K. 🙂

  15. carmen says:

    ….when I get big, I want to be just like you Jenny!

  16. Cindy Fox says:

    love it! great post Galen. jenny, i love watching your mother heart too!

  17. Rachel says:

    This is beautiful! I don’t know Jenny, but now that I’ve read this I wish I did! I’m pretty sure every Mom out there would take this over a bunch of flowers any day. If this trend catches on you’re gonna cause trouble for florists everywhere!

  18. Aug says:

    I loved what you wrote, Mr. Kauffman. I can imagine it made Jenny very happy. And a little embarrassed. I love how Jenny enjoys motherhood and delights in the little things with your girls. It inspires me! I also loved the line about pain redeemed this side of heaven being a gift…that is really profound!

    Great job! Beautiful post! Happy Mother’s Day (late), Jenny!

  19. amber says:

    “Like she’s going back and giving the old Jenny a big hug and telling her it’ll be ok. I find this utterly adorable.”

    ^this part was my favorite. 🙂

    the more i know your sweet wife, the more i love her. thanks for giving me an even deeper glance into the woman she is~ this was one of the sweetest posts ever. so precious.

  20. Kathryn Martin says:

    I have been reading you your blog for several weeks now,& have never commented even tho I have laughed out loud more than once,& also been touched many times,but this one takes the cake-what a priceless gift!

  21. Bevy says:

    Very special, indeed.

    simply beautiful.

  22. Amber says:

    This is beautiful. And I echo what Shelley wrote. ^^

  23. Lindsay says:

    such a beautiful post……I got a “letter of gratitude” from my husband……..WAY better than a $4 card or flowers. 🙂

  24. Charity says:

    Beautiful!

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